#16: Tacos for two

 
One spouse becomes the more dominant decision maker […] while the other adapts to the situation. The dominant one gains self at the expense of the more adaptive one, who loses self. The dominant and adaptive positions are not directly related to the sex of the spouse. They are determined by the position that each had in their families of origin. From my experience, there are as many dominant females as males, and as many adaptive males as females. These characteristics played a major role in their original choice of each other as partners.
— Family Therapy in Clinical Practice, Dr. Murray Bowen

With additional help from Marriage and Family Therapist Lorna Hecht