#11: How to Date With Your Thinking Brain

This week, Lorna and Avrum continue their multi-part discussion (Part 2 of 4) about the trials and tribulations of being single, by sharing personal stories as they discuss dating and mate selection and what dating with one’s “thinking brain” looks like.  

  • If this theory is correct…then whomever I pick I’m not picking wrong.
  • There’s this built in mechanism to weed out the people that clearly aren’t a match.
  • The more I know myself and the more effort I’m putting into developing myself, the more I’ll be attracting appropriate mates.
  • It is within the struggle that growth is possible.
  • People need to date with their thinking brain.

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